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For men who want to marry
Private matchmaking
for men
Velin Privé is private matchmaking for men who want to marry. Our clients are founders, executives, investors, doctors and lawyers who work long weeks and want a wife and a family. Your matchmaker writes down who you want to meet, finds her, and interviews her before you hear her name.
Time, and women who
want the same thing
The men who call us usually have two problems: no hours left for searching, and few women around them who want the same kind of relationship. In Pew Research Center's 2023 survey, three in ten US adults had used a dating site or app, and recent users were split: 44% named a long-term partner as a major reason, 40% named casual dating. Among men, 64% said the lack of messages they received had made them feel insecure.
In Pew's 2019 survey, the top reason daters gave for struggling was finding someone who wants the same kind of relationship. A matchmaker starts from exactly that question.
More men now hand the search over. Matchmakers told Business Insider in 2025 that demand from men is growing, and one US firm reported a 23% rise in male clients that year. The sociologist Pepper Schwartz told the same reporter: "if you really want love, you've got to get out there and look for it." We do the looking for you.
You describe her,
we find her
Every search runs on Velin Privé Target Search. Velin Privé Target Search is executive search for your personal life, built on marketing expertise. We use the same tools that businesses use to find a specific customer, and apply them to finding one specific person: a precise portrait of who you are looking for, targeted outreach to the people who match it, first in our own database, then far beyond it. Every candidate is personally vetted before an introduction.
The portrait describes the woman you would build a life with: her values, whether she wants children, her faith if it matters to you, the language you would speak at home and the city you would share. Every woman we find goes through the same screening and personal interview that you do.
What we ask you
before we search
The brief comes from a questionnaire and two in-depth interviews, sometimes more. These are the questions that decide who we look for:
- Whether you want children, and when.
- What marriage means to you, and the home you want to build.
- Faith, culture and the language you would speak at home.
- Where you live, and whether you would move or start long-distance.
- Your working week and how much of it a relationship can have.
- Past relationships and why they ended.
- What is a must for you, and which differences you can live with.
Your answers stay with your matchmaker. A woman we approach hears only the parts that explain why you two might fit.
From a call
to a first meeting
- 01
A private call. Thirty minutes about your life, your work and the marriage you want. Free, and it commits you to nothing.
- 02
Your brief. A questionnaire and two in-depth interviews become a written portrait of the woman we are looking for, and why.
- 03
The search. Our own database first, then targeted outreach wherever the brief leads. You receive a report every two weeks.
- 04
The introduction. Two independent yeses, then a first meeting online, hosted by your matchmaker. Typically within 4 to 8 weeks of your brief.
What happens between the brief and the first name is explained in what a professional matchmaker actually does.
Your name stays private
until you both say yes
Before an introduction, a woman hears your first name, age, city, field of work, what you are looking for and why the matchmaker thinks you fit. Your surname, employer, social profiles and contact details stay private until both of you have said yes, independently. One no ends it, and neither side learns the other's answer.
Successful men often ask us quietly whether she will be interested in them or in their position. Your income is not part of how we present you. She agrees to meet you on the strength of your values and intentions, described by someone who has interviewed you both. The full standard is in our Introduction Protocol.
Ask your questions
on a call
Thirty minutes on a private video link: your questions about who we look for, how she is vetted and what stays private, and an honest answer on whether we can help.
Six questions to ask
any matchmaker for men
Who finds the women, and how?
A matchmaker who only matches within the people already on file can only introduce whoever happened to register.
We search our own database first, then far beyond it with Velin Privé Target Search, for the woman your brief describes.
Is she vetted the same way I am?
You want to know she was interviewed and checked, beyond filling in a form.
Yes. Every woman goes through the same screening and personal interview as you do.
What is the full price, in writing?
Business Insider reported men paying $25,000 or more in 2025, and contract terms differ from firm to firm.
Memberships from $1,840 for 6 months. Velin Privé Target Search from $700. Everything is on our pricing page.
How soon is the first introduction?
Without a timeline you cannot tell whether the search is moving.
Typically 4 to 8 weeks after your brief, with a written report every two weeks until then.
What does she learn about me before she agrees?
Your name, employer and income should stay private until there is mutual interest.
Your first name, age, city, field of work, what you are looking for and the matchmaker's reasoning. Nothing else before two yeses.
What happens after a meeting that goes nowhere?
Feedback after each meeting tells the matchmaker what to change in the brief.
We talk to both of you and adjust the brief before the next introduction.
The full checklist, with what a good answer sounds like, is in questions to ask before hiring a matchmaker.
Men who are ready
for a wife
We work with men who want a long-term relationship and a family, can give a new relationship real time, and are willing to sit through two honest interviews. If you were looking for a dating service for wealthy men, Velin Privé works differently: we make introductions one at a time, chosen by your matchmaker, and every woman we introduce wants marriage as much as you do.
The same search runs for all our members through our international matchmaking network.
If you would rather
start by yourself
Some men prefer to try first. Our guides cover the ground: how to find a wife, where to meet women when you want something serious and meeting women in your 30s and 40s without dating apps.
What men ask
a matchmaker first
How much does a matchmaker cost for a man?
In 2025 Business Insider reported that high-earning men were paying matchmakers around $25,000 or more. Velin Privé memberships are priced in US dollars: Essential is $1,840 for 6 months, Signature $3,496 for 12 months, Private $6,210 for 18 months. Velin Privé Target Search is available on any membership from $700. All tiers are on our pricing page.
Who are the women you introduce me to?
Women who match the brief we write with you and who have told us they want a lasting relationship. We look in our own database first, then far beyond it with Velin Privé Target Search. Every woman goes through the same screening and personal interview as you do before her name reaches you.
Is it embarrassing for a man to hire a matchmaker?
Matchmakers told Business Insider in 2025 that demand from men is rising, and one US firm reported a 23% rise in male clients that year. Handing the search to a professional is a decision about your time, the same kind you make at work every week.
How long until the first introduction?
Typically within 4 to 8 weeks of your brief. In the meantime you receive a written report every two weeks: who we found, who we reviewed and why people were declined.
Is this a dating service for wealthy men?
Velin Privé is a private matchmaking service for men who want a long-term relationship and a family. Your matchmaker introduces you to one woman at a time, chosen against your brief, and every woman we introduce is looking for the same kind of relationship you are.
Can you look for a partner in another country?
Yes. The search goes wherever your brief points, worldwide. Language, culture, faith and the city you would share all go into the brief and shape who we reach out to.
What happens if an introduction does not work?
We talk to both of you about what happened. An awkward first meeting is often a misunderstanding that can be cleared up. If it was a real mismatch, we adjust the brief before the next introduction.
Memberships and what each includes are on our pricing page, and how fees compare across the market is in how much a matchmaker costs.
Private Call
Executive search
for your personal life
We build a precise portrait of the woman you are looking for, reach out to the women who match it, and personally vet every one before an introduction. On a private call, Marina Pasqual, co-founder of Velin Privé, will walk you through how your search would run and what it would cost.
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