The Velin Introduction Protocol

The Velin Introduction Protocol is the standard every Velin Privé search runs on. It sets out how members and candidates are selected, prepared, introduced and supported afterwards.

We do not hand out a catalogue of profiles, and we do not pass on anyone's contact details without manual selection, separate interviews and consent from both sides.

• Protect confidentiality and personal safety
• Confirm that both people are serious
• Assess real compatibility rather than stated preferences
• Host the first introduction properly
• Collect honest feedback from each side separately
• Support the couple afterwards without pressure or over-involvement

Mutual consent. An introduction happens only after two independent yes answers. One person agreeing means nothing until the other has answered, and neither is told what the other said until both have decided.

Confidentiality. Before mutual consent, no surname, phone number, personal email, social profile, exact employer, address or other identifying detail is shared.

No catalogue. Members do not browse people. Your matchmaker forms a compatibility hypothesis and proposes one specific introduction.

Manual selection. Everyone goes through pre-screening, a personal interview, a check on what they are actually looking for, and an honest assessment of readiness - candidates included, whether or not they are paying.

Neutrality. Your matchmaker will not talk you into a meeting, will not push after a no, and will never promise chemistry.

Before anything else, the matchmaker works through:

• What you are actually looking for, and how you feel about marriage
• Children - existing and wanted
• Current relationship status, and any parallel relationships
• Where you live, and whether you would relocate or do distance
• Lifestyle and working hours
• Core values and emotional needs
• Preferred communication style and expectations of a partner
• Non-negotiables versus differences you can live with
• Past relationships and why they ended
• Willingness to put work into a relationship once it starts

The point is not only the partner you want, but the relationship you are genuinely ready for. Those are often two different things.

After the interview a closed working profile is written. It is never shown to other members.

• Basics, life goals and view of family
• Values, personality, communication and attachment style
• Emotional needs and personal boundaries
• Attitude to money and career
• Social life, cultural and religious context
• Geographic limits and matching criteria
• Likely difficulties and risk factors
• Recommendations for how the introduction should be arranged

A search runs through several channels at once:

• The closed Velin Privé network
• Referrals
• Professional and social communities
• Partner matchmakers
• Targeted outreach on LinkedIn and social platforms
• Campaigns run for one specific brief

Anyone found outside the network goes through the same screening and the same full interview as a paying member. No exceptions.

Nothing is presented to either side until the matchmaker can answer all of this in writing:

1. Why the first person may suit the second
2. Why the second may suit the first
3. Which values and life goals overlap
4. Which differences could complement the couple
5. Which differences could become a source of conflict
6. Whether there is physical, intellectual, emotional and social compatibility
7. Whether both want a relationship to move at the same pace
8. Whether building it is realistically possible
9. Why this introduction makes sense now

Each side receives, separately:

• First name, age, city and country
• Field of work and marital status
• Children, where the other person has agreed to share this
• Lifestyle, key interests and what they are looking for
• Current photographs
• The matchmaker's reasoning for the introduction

I have met this person myself, and I can see several reasons the two of you might want to talk. What you want from a relationship, how you live, and where you are heading line up in ways that matter. The rest you can only judge in conversation.

You can say yes, no, I need more information, or I need time. So can they.

Neither of you learns the other's answer until both have replied. If one side declines, the introduction does not happen, and nobody is asked to reconsider.

The first meeting is online, with the matchmaker present. It is not a date. It is a properly hosted introduction of two people who have each already agreed to it.

Forty-five to sixty minutes, structured like this:

• 5-10 minutes - the matchmaker introduces you both and explains her reasoning
• 10-15 minutes - conversation with her still there, to carry the awkward opening
• 20-30 minutes - the two of you alone
• About 5 minutes - closing the meeting

The goal of this call is not to decide anything about a future relationship. It is to find out whether talking to each other feels good, and whether you want to keep going.

The matchmaker handles scheduling across time zones, the meeting link, the confirmation and reminder, a camera and audio check, and a backup channel in case something fails.

She also speaks to each of you privately beforehand: what the format is, that she will be there and then will step away, how much to disclose, and the reassurance that no decision is required at the end.

Participants are asked to join from somewhere quiet, with a stable connection and the camera on. Not while driving. Not after several drinks. No recording, no screenshots without consent, no sharing the link and no extra people in the room.

She is a facilitator, and the job has clear limits.

• She introduces you, explains why, and gets the conversation moving
• She steps in if things stall or tighten, then gives the two of you space
• She observes the dynamic and closes the meeting properly
• She does not interrogate, answer for you, or run the whole conversation
• She does not favour one side, push a romantic decision, or comment on appearance
• She never discloses confidential information from either interview

Each of you is debriefed separately, and what you say rewrites the search brief. Not whether it went well - what specifically landed, what did not, and whether the thing you asked for in the first interview is still the thing you want.

That is why a third introduction usually lands closer than a first.